The story we tell ourselves every moment of the day truly matters. How could it not? Our inner voice can uplift us or bring us down, and it’s rarely neutral. You may have heard about positive self-talk, but what does it really mean? More importantly, how can you practice it in a way that feels genuine and not forced?
Below are some concrete tips to help you get started: you may want to begin slowly by trying one at a time.
1. Create a “Good Things That Happen to Me” List
At the beginning or end of your day, take a moment to jot down a couple of things—big or small—that you’re grateful for.
🌞 Examples:
- Traffic was flowing on my way to work.
- The sun was shining, even though the forecast called for rain.
- I had a pleasant interaction with someone.
This simple practice helps shift your focus toward the positive aspects of your life.
2. Use Affirmations
Choose a few positive affirmations that resonate with you. Here are some examples:
- “I am capable of overcoming challenges.”
- “I learn and grow from my experiences.”
- “I choose to focus on the good in my life.”
Display them somewhere visible to you (your bathroom mirror, your phone, etc.) and take a moment each day to say them out loud. This can help reinforce your self-belief and cultivate a more positive mindset.
3. Reframe Negative Thoughts
When you notice a negative thought creeping in, try to reframe it. For instance, instead of thinking, “I can’t do this,” remind yourself:
💡 “I’ll give it my best shot and learn from the experience.”
This shift can make a big difference.
4. Focus on Solutions
When something doesn’t go as planned, instead of fixating on what went wrong, turn your attention to what you can do to improve the situation—either now or in the future. A proactive approach fosters a more positive outlook.
5. Be Kinder to Yourself
Remind yourself to treat yourself like you would a close friend. Speak kindly and avoid harsh self-criticism. Remember, everyone makes mistakes; it’s part of growing.
✨ Ask yourself:
“What would I say to [name of a close friend] if they were in a similar situation?”
Getting Started
Start with one of these suggestions that feels the most appealing to you. Incorporating positive self-talk into your daily life can make a significant difference in countering negativity and enhancing your overall well-being.
Brigitte Bourassa 